When we stubbornly hold on to negative thoughts and feelings, worries, and problems, we drain our energy. If we permit our mistakes and unpleasant experiences to control our behavior, we end up carrying the burdens of shame, embarrassment, criticism, and blame, thereby keeping us locked in a perpetual cycle of destructive circumstances and self-sabotaging situations.
We tenaciously allow the things we do NOT want in our lives to be utmost on our minds, and we have the audacity to wonder why we’re so unhappy!
“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.”
Anthony de Mello
The good news is that we hold the key to free ourselves from this pattern. How do we do that? The first step is to honestly acknowledge where we are currently focused, and what our recurring thoughts are. Next, we must consciously interrupt that negative pattern by doing something radical – love ourselves and forgive ourselves for perceived errors. Let go of any judgments, resentments, and fear-based thoughts that are keeping us chained to our feelings of unworthiness and wretchedness. As we learn to do this for ourselves, we will then be able to extend that love and forgiveness to others.
“Take control of your consistent emotions and begin to consciously and deliberately reshape your daily experience of life.”
Tony Robbins
As we release the pain we have been holding onto, we begin to heal and allow peace back into our lives. Now, this may require some time and constant practice, but with persistence we will begin noticing a powerful transformation as we replace apprehension with joy and confidence.
The choice is ours to reclaim command of our thoughts, actions, and lives. We have the power to create a pattern that frees us to live a fuller, happier life by being willing to try new things, get back up after we fall down, and choose to focus on the things we DO want in our lives. All we have to do is take the first step.
“Forgiveness is healing…especially forgiving yourself.”
Alyson Noel
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