Many times, we feel compassion for others, and are gentle with them when they are going through tough times. However, we tend to overlook this kindness when it comes to ourselves. Instead, we berate ourselves and believe the negative self-talk that creeps in, often without our even being aware of it, and very soon, we are living a limited version of life.
“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”
Jack Kornfield
It is important to remind ourselves that no one is perfect, and we deserve just as much understanding and mercy as anyone else. This doesn’t mean we don’t hold ourselves accountable, it just means we let go of the feelings of shame or anger brought on by the mistakes we’ve made. By shifting our perception toward celebrating the progress we’re making rather than dwelling on so-called failures, then we’ll feel much more peaceful and relaxed.
Gently, and with love, let go of self-condemnation and practice self-compassion. Instead of seeing only what we think is wrong, stay tuned into what is right and good. If we practice self-compassion, forgive ourselves for mistakes, and continually notice our blessings with a grateful heart, then we will quickly shift to a more positive mindset which will free us to focus on living the full life we want.
“Feeling compassion for ourselves in no way releases us from responsibility for our actions. Rather, it releases us from the self-hatred that prevents us from responding to our life with clarity and balance.”
Tara Brach
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