Sometimes we need to do what is in our own best interest, to follow our hearts, to make the decision to take control of our lives instead of just waiting and hoping for it to magically happen all by itself. We cannot allow others to dictate our lives on their terms and continually put ourselves last, because all that will happen is resentment and disconnection. This is not to say that we should never put others first, but there are certain times when we must balance what others may consider to be selfish and what is necessary for our own growth and development.
Each of us has an obligation to find what makes us happy, even if it means changing things up and letting go of what is not in our best interest. This will most likely make some of the people in our lives upset, and can even change the structure of relationships, yet sometimes this is vital to being true to ourselves. And this can feel scary because most of us do not live our lives that way. Often, we go along with what others want, or what is easiest, or what is expected of us, or what we think is expected of us.
If things just aren’t working out in a satisfactory way, it is not only okay to admit that enough is enough – it’s imperative. If this is the case, then it’s time to let go and stop thinking about it, talking about it, and worrying about it. There is no reason to drag out suffering; we must let go of what is not working and open ourselves to something fresh and new. In doing so, we can start from where we are and shift our perspective to something better.
We must love and respect ourselves enough to embrace life with zeal. We may feel powerless to make ourselves the center of our own lives, but really, we hold the power to do just that. We just need to give ourselves permission to accept that responsibility and let go of the fear of what could happen if we made different choices and explored new paths. We owe it to ourselves to live as authentically and happily as possible.
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.
Maria Robinson
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