Speaking Your Truth

Each of us, at one point or another, may unwillingly fall into roles assigned by others or sometimes even roles we create for ourselves. When we find that these roles no longer serve us, and we want to break free from them, it can cause tension or rifts in the relationship. The words we say and choices we make can sometimes hurt others, and we may feel regret for something we’ve said or done, especially if we feel guilty about trying to change a role or about telling people how it makes us feel.

However, it is important that we speak our truth. If we are unhappy or uncomfortable with a situation, and feel it needs to change, then we should speak up – even if it means that we cause someone else some discomfort. Because if we don’t, we are not being true to ourselves. This does not mean we should be selfish and not care about others. On the contrary, it means we care enough about ourselves to make a change for the better.

Speaking up for ourselves and respecting ourselves is crucial. We cannot allow ourselves to be treated in any way that that diminishes us, just so others can feel better or more important. If this happens, then they do not care about your feelings and by getting stuck in certain roles, it will prevent the relationship from moving forward in a positive way. By talking with the person involved and telling them how you feel, you can potentially improve your relationship and you can both be happy. If they refuse, then it may be time to reconsider the relationship.

When we speak. we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So, it is better to speak.

Audre Lorde