We all will experience grief in one way or another, whether it is the death of a loved one, or a pet, or the loss of a relationship; therefore, it is crucial to understand that we all mourn differently, since grief expresses in myriad ways.
Grief can be confusing and frightening. If you are the one offering comfort to someone who is grieving, it can feel awkward, because you may feel you don’t know what to say, but just taking the time to let the person know you care and by giving emotional support, you can make a huge difference. On the other hand, if you are on the receiving end, knowing that someone cares can help tremendously. Talking with others can also help you work through the complicated emotions, whether with loved ones, in a support group, or with a counselor.
Remember, during the time of readjustment, it is imperative to take care of yourself, and be patient with yourself and others. It is important not to try to rush the grieving process; it will take as long as it takes. There will be difficult and painful emotions to work through, and this will make things even more challenging. However, with time, the intensity will begin to lessen, and you can prepare to move on.
Moving on does not mean you’ve forgotten about the loss. It just means you’ve accepted that it has happened and you’re ready to acknowledge that things are different now; but, you always have memories to cherish and will find a way to adapt to the new circumstances. Of course, that’s not to say that you won’t feel sadness and a sense of sorrow at any time in the future regarding this loss, because you will. That is normal. Just take one day at a time. You are not alone.
“Loss can remind us that life itself is a gift.”
Louise Hay and David Kessler
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